I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

I'm feeling perky because in a few days time so that's July 28th

2020 in case you happen to be listening in the future, I turned 43.

That's a part of me that still pinches myself

and goes, oh my gosh, I'm in my 40s.

I can't believe it.

Because in some respects, I still feel and act like a big kid. If you watch my Instagram stories you'll see I love to

break out my dance moves and I love my 80s and 90s music in particular that I am very

into drawing and doing the things that light me up and just really

leaning into those younger aspects of me that in some respects got put away

for too long. I enter my 40s thinking,

what the hell is this, what is going on? And admittedly it was a few months after dad had passed away.

And it was a bumpy ride initially, but I can honestly

say that I am the most me I have ever been, and I think that my 40s have really taken me to a whole new level of giving me full

on permission to do my thing and to be more of who I really am and to stop stressing out over all the things

that I used to care about when I was moving my way through my teens and 20s and 30s. So yay here's to turning 43 and happy

birthday to me. I'm looking forward to whatever comes in the year ahead. It feels like it's a pretty exciting time.

Anyway, what do I want to talk about today?

So something that so many of us struggle with when we realize that we don't have the best

of boundaries and we would like to have more of them or we realize that there are certain things that bother us and that we need to

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