Ep #188: Stop Taking Things Personally
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 22 September 2022
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
#188: Discover the many reasons we take things personally, what becomes possible when we stop taking things personally, and the keys to reframing this habit. I’m showing you the role of codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing in this cycle, and all of my favorite tools for beginning to slowly remove negative self-talk from your inner and outer dialogue.
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| 0:00.0 | This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. |
| 0:15.0 | I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. |
| 0:22.0 | Welcome, my love. Let's get started. so you can live from your beautiful heart. |
| 0:23.0 | Welcome, my love. |
| 0:24.0 | Let's get started. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello, my love. |
| 0:31.0 | I hope this finds you doing so well. So last week we talked all about drama drama drama |
| 0:39.8 | and one of the ways we unwittingly create drama in our lives is by taking things |
| 0:47.8 | personally and this is a topic that deserves its own whole show because being a person with the habit of taking things personally is a whole mood indeed. |
| 0:59.0 | It impacts every area of your life, all of your relationships. |
| 1:05.2 | And it is a central feature of being an emotional externalizer or |
| 1:10.1 | outsourcing, aka having a coddependent mindset habit. |
| 1:15.0 | Taking things personally is one of the most common tools in our survival skill set, |
| 1:20.0 | meaning the skills we learned in childhood to get through life that we continue to have in adulthood until we pause. Really take a good look at ourselves and our internal child's scripts and hit pause on those old cassette tapes. |
| 1:37.0 | So let's dive in. What are we talking about here? |
| 1:41.0 | Well, when taking things personally is our habit, we can apply this lens to everything |
| 1:46.7 | in our world and can find something to be offended about. From a casual comment, a loved one or a colleague makes, to feedback from a professor or supervisor, to a look a stranger seemed to be pointing your way in the supermarket, to someone not hearing you and asking you to repeat yourself |
| 2:04.5 | to someone setting a boundary. When taking things personally as part of your |
| 2:09.2 | survival skill set you are on the constant lookout for possible offense and make everything or |
| 2:16.2 | many things in life all about you as a false protective mechanism. This habit continues to put our focus on other people instead of on ourselves, |
| 2:28.9 | which is what we do from our cod dependent wounding. We externalize our experience of life |
| 2:34.2 | instead of staying present in our own bodies. |
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