Ep #176: Loving Your Past Self, Living with Compassion
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 30 June 2022
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
#176: If you want to live a more present, embodied, and intentional life, I invite you to love on your past self. I’m showing you why going down a road of self-flagellation does no good for you, how to be kind to your past, present, and future self, and the remedies for the habit of self-judgment that is keeping you stagnant in old self-concept stories.
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| 0:00.0 | This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started. |
| 0:26.7 | Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well I am delighted at all the bird song. Can you hear it? I feel like I live in a bird |
| 0:36.7 | sanctuary and it's just so dreamy. So today I want to talk about the concept of our past self. |
| 0:45.0 | When we start to learn to live in a new way, |
| 0:49.0 | that it's possible to ditch our old cod dependent perfectionist and people-pleasing thought habits. |
| 0:54.6 | It's super common to get really down on ourselves. |
| 0:58.1 | We coach on this a lot in Anckered, as a whole thing for sure, we beat ourselves up when we learn new things, new ways of being. |
| 1:09.0 | We forget that we, you know, just learned it. And we don't give ourselves the grace for being new at something. |
| 1:19.1 | We have this habit of speaking to and thinking of ourselves in such unkind and even cruel ways. |
| 1:25.9 | We are often mean to ourselves for not knowing what we didn't know before we knew it, which |
| 1:31.6 | often comes from both the cod dependent story that were not worthy or good enough, or else we'd already know everything, and everyone else must know this, and at the end of the day we were probably too broken to know it anyway. |
| 1:48.0 | We think this way and treat ourselves this way from the perfectionist thought fantasy that tells that same old story, |
| 1:55.7 | that we're supposed to know all the things all the time and that something is wrong with us |
| 2:01.6 | for not being all knowing. |
| 2:04.6 | We are so focused on the things we should have done, |
| 2:08.0 | the things we think we could have done better |
| 2:10.6 | before we knew how to do them better. We get so focused on the things we |
| 2:14.8 | don't see as successes, see as failures in a bad way, versus failure in a good way, |
| 2:21.6 | in which we talk about in episodes 39 and 40 and we're cruel to ourselves. |
| 2:28.0 | And in so doing, we walk around the world with blinders on to how amazing we really are. All the amazing things we are doing, |
| 2:38.0 | all the ways we are succeeding and growing and we brush those successes aside and move steadily along to self-flagellation |
| 2:45.3 | from the story that were never good enough. So our brain says, why celebrate ourselves |
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