This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started.

Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well. I was on a call today with a woman who had applied to my

anchored program, my six-month program for overcoming codependency, perfectionism,

and people-pleasing. It's really a program about finding your self-worth and self-love and

whoa it's powerful. So I was on the phone with this woman on Zoom really and she was talking about how much she regrets not

applying to and joining Anker two years ago and how there are all these things have

happened in her life she married her then boyfriend and has now

divorced him and all these things that happened and she was telling the story.

If I had just joined Ancred then, I wouldn't be regretting the last two years.

Oof. My goodness. That felt so heavy, right? She was telling this story about how her life has been regrettable.

And I have a lot of thoughts about this, but first, let's start with a definition, because my nerds love a definition.

So, the dictionary tells me,

regret is to feel sorry, disappointed, distressed, or remorseful about the past to remember with a feeling of loss or sorrow to mourn.

Well, geez, that's dire.

Regret is some heavy business.

It's all Shakespearean and its very definition to remember with a feeling of loss or sorrow to mourn.

I want to talk about regret today

because this conversation and because I hear my clients talk

about their past and their choices was so much of this heaviness, so much regret,

so much blame, shame and guilt towards themselves and others.

And what I want to say from jump is this. When we are living in regret, we are

abandoning ourselves. We are abandoning and exiling the version of us that made those decisions.

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