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A writer based in Southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to improve their emotional and relationship literacy.

Something that really great on me is a certain type of person tends to only speak to you, be super nice to you, you know, hang around with you,

basically when they want something.

And I realized, due to a rather funny experience recently, that these people have a bit of a bootycore mentality, you know, seeing people as a means to an end, yeah to a certain degree having an over-inflated

sense of their own importance where they think that what they're going to do or what you're going to get in exchange for whatever

it is that they want from you is basically enough to cover up for the indecency of them taking advantage

of you in the first place.

So you may recall that in episode four I talked about how

my handyman had really really got on my last nerve by just springing a demand on me for money after he just started work that day and he'd actually disappeared and I basically yeah I was very

honest with him and sort of let him have it he had sort of just taken advantage like one too many times and

cross the boundary And so he went off and I think I bumped into him one day when I was you know walking around in the town and it was fine and he was like oh yeah I'm gonna give you you a call about like doing a job for you guys I was like yeah whatever

forgot all about it and it's a few weeks back and the door goes in the middle of the day

and my little brother who's Dame versus like oh you know this

this guy at the door he says he knows you so I come to the door and of course it's him and

I actually said to what do I owe this great displeasure and he was all

charm as if like nothing had happened he's cracking jokes he's, what type of word do you need me to do?

Just basically trying to press the reset button. I mean, I am the last person that he's trying to do that with.

So he comes in and he's like, oh, you know, I've been meaning to call, had a problem with my number, blah, blah, blah.

In the back of my mind, I could kind of think of like a couple of people from ages ago, you know,

around before I started Baggage Reclaim, where it would have been one of these

sort of casual situations.

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