Ep #149: Building Trust & Letting Your Wants Guide You
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 23 December 2021
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
If like so many humans socialized as women, you’ve been taught to believe having wants and needs makes you a burden or a bother, and that it’s better to pretend you don’t have any, this is your work, and I’m showing you why it matters so deeply.
Tune in this week as I share six reasons why letting your wants guide you is so important, how denying them is eroding your self-trust, and a simple exercise to get you in touch with, own, and go after your desires.
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| 0:00.0 | This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach, Victoria Albina. |
| 0:15.0 | I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency, |
| 0:20.0 | so you can live from your beautiful heart. |
| 0:22.0 | Welcome, my love. Let's get started. so you can live from your beautiful heart. |
| 0:23.0 | Welcome, my love. |
| 0:24.0 | Let's get started. |
| 0:25.0 | Hello, my love. |
| 0:30.0 | I hope this finds you doing so well. So last week we define the difference |
| 0:36.9 | between wants and needs as needs being those things that sustain life plus |
| 0:42.1 | things like social connection that are vital for |
| 0:45.3 | a regulated nervous system. Wants are the, it would be super rad to have it things, not the things |
| 0:52.2 | that sustained life. We also talked about how |
| 0:55.0 | comment it is to tell the story that we need something when it's actually a |
| 1:00.8 | want because from our codependent thought habits we believe we need to justify our wants for them to be valid or worthy of asking for or working towards or even dreaming of. |
| 1:13.8 | And finally, we talked about how the thing we need, |
| 1:17.3 | like to feel safe or connected, |
| 1:19.9 | can get all muddled in our perfectionist story of the how, how we want to get that need met. |
| 1:28.1 | For example, I need to feel safe, so I want my partners to read my mind and meet my needs exactly how I want them to by |
| 1:37.0 | saying the exact right thing in the exact right way without my even telling them. |
| 1:45.0 | Sound familiar, my darlings? Such a classically cod dependent way of attempting to get our needs met, right? |
| 1:51.0 | So from that foundation, and if you're new to the show and didn't listen to last week, |
| 1:56.3 | I'd recommend it. It's a good primer for what we're doing today and next week. |
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