This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started.

Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well I am delighted to report that I got a wood stove. My home up here

on occupied Muncie Lenape land in the Hudson Valley of New York State and I'm

loving it. It was just such a great decision to really make my space so super cozy as we head into the winter and I just love curling up in the morning by the fire doing my meditation, my

thought work, my breath work there and spending some time really connecting with me before I head into a day of being of service and it's just

so sweet and I'm loving it. So that's my update. This week I'm delighted to share some remedies to all or nothing thinking with you.

I'm a practical nursing creature after all and I love a good remedy.

So last week we laid out what black and white all-or-nothing,

good and bad sort of moralistic framework of thinking is and how it creates a whole boatload of challenges in our lives.

Keeps us from living a life of deep joy, ease, and interdependence.

And those things are my goal in life for sure, to bring a lot more of that in, and to continue the work of dropping the worry, stress, anxiety, future tripping, ruminating, and codipdependent people-pleasing habits that lead to and are

perpetuated by an all-or-nothing black and white good and bad version of the world, from which I for sure made a whole lot of assumptions

around the world and what I was making it mean because when that was my framework I for one was definitely running on unintentional

autopilot and I don't know about you but I was not pausing to recognize my own agency

and power the power I have, that you have, to regulate our nervous

systems and to choose our thoughts to create our feelings, to support our bodies so madically, to create the sensations, the feelings,

the bodily connections that help us shift into a life full of ever greater joy by learning to live in that nuance.

Starting to recognize when we're in old habits is so vital if we want to change them. So we can start to live our lives in

emotional adulthood and not in emotional childhood, which we covered way back in

the day in episodes 23 and 24. And to do so we need to raise

our awareness so we can challenge our long-held belief that all things are all or nothing, black and white good and bad, so we can begin

to step out of that dichotomous worldview and into the gray, the nuance of life, to begin to question our habitual thinking, which it's important to note right up front

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