I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello.

How are you doing? I have no idea why I am singing. I seem to be in a pretty good mood today.

So welcome to another episode or hello if this is the first time you're joining me.

This week I want to talk about something that I don't actually think I've spoken about

on the podcast, but I've definitely talked about it on a blog, and it is about something I call the lean period.

Now, I work with so many people who struggle with feeling stuck. They either know that they are stuck in the sense that they're going round and round and round about the same thing or about the same person or going back and forth in a relationship or on a situation.

And sometimes they don't necessarily realize

that they are stuck.

They just know that they are really baffled by a situation that they feel as if it should have turned out differently,

or they're even baffled by their behavior. Now, there are a number of factors that contribute to this including

yeah sometimes being in the habit of thinking about someone or something.

This is something I talked about last week in the episode about forgiveness,

about how if we spend, for instance, six months,

every day thinking about something or someone

whenever for instance we have a shower we get the train whenever we get annoyed

then we've created a habit around that so it's not necessarily that we actually feel as much as we do about the person,

we're just in a habit of thinking about them, for instance.

It can also be that we're telling the story in the same way,

we are feeling as if we've been robbed, it can be that we are

sort of typecast and so we're like, oh well this is my role and now that I'm not playing this

role, like what am I supposed to do with my time?

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