This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started.

Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well. So the other night we did this super fun goofy thing and

anchored my six-month program where we met on a random Tuesday night to tell

super cheesy, corny, terrible jokes.

And then we danced.

So it was like, what do you call a cat with no legs? You guessed it, it, ground beef.

Oh, followed by Whitney Lizzo, Gloria Stephan, and you heard me right on that Gloria Stephan because the Miami

Sound Machine lives on Pac-Iempre.

It was so amazing, and there are so many reasons why I choose to do such a thing in my program

centered around helping women and gender non-binary humans to reclaim their self-love and

self-worth from the patriarchy and their conditioning,

and there are reasons beyond the fact that it was just stupid fun.

And that reason is because being judgmental is part and parcel of the codependent perfectionist people-pleasing way of being.

Because we source our worth externally not from ourselves, we are so scared of being judged by others.

Because in our unmanaged minds, their opinion of us is more important than our opinion of us.

So we judge everyone else harshly because we fear that they will judge us harshly.

And we want to get ahead of that possible pain

by pre-rejecting them before they can even form an opinion about us, lest they actually reject or judge us, after all.

Brains are amazing, and they do such wild things to try to protect us.'s like whoa right I mean of course we need

thought work how else can you spot these circles that our brains are so conditioned

to go in.

And what happens for us is we get into this thought habit,

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