You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 13, a no contact rule you haven't heard of yet.

Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.

I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy.

Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.

Hello, Brave hearts.

I am in Memphis today with my mom. And sadly, I forgot the part of my

microphone that connects to the recording device. So I want to apologize that the sound quality on

this episode is very much less than, but I did not want to miss a week with all of you. I really

truly appreciate each of you listening. And I hope this helps you along your breakup journey.

And I just want to say thank you, thank you so much.

Today, we're going to talk about the no contact rule and what that looks like for each of my clients and just giving you my two cents on it.

I know there's a lot of information out there about why the no contact

rule after a breakup is a good or a bad thing. And I know that they discuss like the pros and the

cons and the benefits and why it works or doesn't work. And here's my two cents. I believe that

everyone is so different and everyone's relationship is very different.

I don't think it needs to be this blanket statement. I have some clients that cut everything off

and I have and they have zero contact and that works for them. I have other clients who remain

friends and really hang out in the same friend groups and that works for them. I have other clients who remain friends and really hang out in the same

friend groups and that works for them. And other clients, it's kind of like a mixture of the two,

right? And there's different ends of that spectrum and sometimes you fall within the middle

part of that spectrum and sometimes you fall on either end of those. And the secret to all of this is what I call

a protocol. And I call this an excommunications protocol, meaning a protocol is a guideline that you set

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