I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

When someone likes you and genuinely wants to be with you. They don't burn up their energies trying to

resist you. Plus they won't leave it ambiguous and run the risk of losing you. They'll step up with consistent actions that match their words. You will feel and

know their interest. Hi everyone. What I just said there is a tweet that I wrote in July of last year, so that's

in July 2018 for anybody who's listening in the future and I have pinned that tweet since

because it's it's been by far my most popular tweet to date. The funny thing is

is that I have been saying variations of this, you know, for over a decade now, back from when I started out, you know, a baggage reclaim and writing Mr and available and the foreback girl my first book.

And after last week's episode where I talked about trying versus trying so you know when we are in this

mode of just trying too hard with people because on some level we don't feel good enough or we feel as if we have to prove that we are good enough to others.

We're trying to please them, we're trying to win them over.

We're trying to get them to be the person that we really want them to be,

and so we're just always trying, because on some level we just know that something isn't right.

But I felt that it was really important to speak specifically about romantic relationships and

recognizing that sometimes we accept less than who we are.

Sometimes we accept less than what we need, desire and deserve.

We can be so unsure of ourselves. We may have had so many experiences where we'd hoped that this might be the one,

but it didn't work out.

We might feel as if we got close.

We might feel as if we have spent so much

of our adult life in the wrong relationship that we just want this to be it. And we can see potential in somebody.

And we can really like that person,

sort of like what we've experienced so far. And particularly if we have had sort of a

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