Ep. 12: Got To Be My T.Y.P.E If You Wanna Be With Me
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 13 November 2015
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Natalie talks about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment which runs from mid-November until just after Valentine’s day, why having a type causes you to have a blind spot, and a key reason why some people struggle to reply to texts immediately. This week’s listener question is about whether it’s ever OK to fake it in bed plus, Natalie shares how standing up for herself and resigning from her position of class rep for one of her daughter’s classes has been a reminder about knowing when to fold and staying true to your values. You can read more about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment here: http://bit.ly/setorment Read more about toxic type here http://bit.ly/YMo0p9 plus if you have a long-established pattern of unhealthy relationships, check out The Pattern Breaker: http://bit.ly/thepatternbreaker
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| 0:00.0 | This week I talk about Toxic Type and ask why we need to have an immediate reply to a text message. |
| 0:11.0 | I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to |
| 0:17.0 | improve their emotional and relationship literacy. |
| 0:21.7 | Let's kick this off. |
| 0:24.0 | Every year at this time of year my inbox starts to heat up with people who are grappling with the stress that they associate with Thanksgiving, Christmas, the holidays, |
| 0:38.5 | New Year, Valentine's, I call it the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment. |
| 0:45.0 | It's not because there are a whole load of scrooges out there or miserable. |
| 0:50.0 | I do think that there is a hell of a lot of pressure. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves, |
| 0:56.0 | we try to live up to a certain image, we think that, you know, oh, we should get on with our family, |
| 1:02.2 | so we feel bad about ourselves if we don't get on with them. |
| 1:05.5 | We can put ourselves under a great deal of pressure to spend time with our family so we will |
| 1:09.6 | already be thinking about our so-called obligations and the expectations and if we do |
| 1:16.1 | think to ourselves you know what I would love it if I didn't spend Thanksgiving or |
| 1:21.2 | Christmas or the holidays with my family this year, then we suddenly have a big surge of guilt to grapple with as well. |
| 1:28.0 | If we are in a relationship and it's not going too well, then we convince ourselves that everybody else is in the most perfect relationship and that it's just hours that is, you know, messed up. |
| 1:39.0 | If we are single, then we convince ourselves that we are the only one who is single. |
| 1:44.1 | We are bombarded with messages from as early as August about Christmas. |
| 1:48.4 | We start to go into shops and we see things like |
| 1:53.6 | selection boxes and the adverts and the emails and the messages and it's like geez I give it a break |
| 1:59.6 | We can't escape it is pushing this image of how we're supposed to feel what we're supposed to be doing |
| 2:05.1 | you know what we're supposed to be being at this time and if we are not really that happy with who we are |
| 2:11.8 | or we are struggling with certain aspects of our lives or |
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