Ep 12. Arriving in Singlehood (and Letting Go of Idolatry of Marriage & Relationships)
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
Beatrice
4.8 • 3.4K Ratings
🗓️ 28 May 2026
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, we chat:
What it's like when being single no longer feels like a problem to solve, a challenge to overcome, or something to trevail. In this episode, we discover the confidence, security, contentment, and PEACE that comes from arriving in singlehood and we confront the idolatry of marriage and relationships that... may be preventing you from getting there.
What you'll learn in this episode:
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- The difference between arriving in singlehood and treating being single like something to "get through"
- The 4 things that can indicate idolatry of Marriage and/or relationships
- The 4 things that indicate your arrival into singlehood (and contentment in it!)
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome back to the clear not louder podcast. My name is Beatrice and I'm your host. |
| 0:06.2 | First things first, someone asked if this is the self-love fixed podcast or what happened to it. I can't |
| 0:11.5 | remember what they said. This was formerly known as the self-love fixed podcast. We are now |
| 0:17.1 | clear not louder. We've rebranded girl. Get all the girls, tell all the girls, tell the girl to tell a girl. |
| 0:23.8 | Because I think a lot of people are probably wondering what happened to the self-love fix podcast. |
| 0:29.2 | But yeah, we're here. |
| 0:30.3 | We just have a new name and a new vibe. |
| 0:32.6 | In other news, I hope you enjoyed last week's conclusion of the Love is Not Enough series. |
| 0:38.0 | I've heard over at Clear or Not Louder on Instagram, |
| 0:42.7 | quite a few of you saying you enjoyed the series. |
| 0:45.2 | So yay, I'm really happy to hear it. |
| 0:47.1 | And this week we are talking about going from idolizing relationships and marriage |
| 0:52.3 | to arriving in singlehood. |
| 0:55.2 | And I really, when the word arriving popped up in my head, I was like, this is perfect |
| 0:59.8 | because I've seen a lot of things where it's like finding the joy in singlehood or |
| 1:04.5 | navigating your single season, especially that season word, girl, I can't do it because |
| 1:10.3 | to me it feels as though it gives |
| 1:13.5 | get through the trenches, get through the trenches. And arriving in singlehood is different to me |
| 1:19.6 | because it's also personal, first of all, because I've found contentment, true contentment, |
| 1:25.4 | and I haven't found it any longer to be something to get rid of, |
| 1:29.5 | something to be ashamed of, something that indicates there is a problem, get this spinster, |
| 1:36.7 | a man, you know, so I am excited to talk about that because I believe there is something |
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