Ep 11 Love is Not Enough Part 5-- Dating Lessons from My 30's.
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
Beatrice
4.8 • 3.4K Ratings
🗓️ 21 May 2026
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
Why love... is not enough. Part 5. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one!
What you'll learn in this episode:
- Navigating dating men who are insecure and the difference between a man who likes you vs. likes what you can do for him,
- Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These FINAL 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship.
- Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome back to the clearer, not louder podcast. My name is Beatrice and I'm your |
| 0:06.1 | host and this week we can include our four-part series on the Love is Not Enough. |
| 0:14.0 | Episodes where I discussed the things that I learned to not only look for, but to also evaluate when dating, especially as |
| 0:25.4 | somebody who desires marriage. So this is very, this series, I should say, has been very, okay, |
| 0:31.3 | what counts when it comes to marriage aside from all of the cutesy feelings. So highly implore you to listen to the past episodes. |
| 0:41.4 | So let's get into this week's episode. |
| 0:44.4 | Starting off with the ninth thing I've learned to evaluate in my 30s, does he actually |
| 0:51.1 | like you as a person, not just what you can do for him? |
| 0:58.0 | Does he actually like you as a person, not just what you can do for him? |
| 1:04.1 | And honestly, the fact that I did not learn to look for this. |
| 1:09.4 | I would actually say this was more like 29. I learned to look for this |
| 1:12.4 | at 29. And I hate that for me. I'm not even going to lie. I'm not even going to lie. I hate that for me. |
| 1:21.3 | I could not differentiate before 29, before that frontal lobe was fully, fully, fully developed. |
| 1:29.6 | I could not differentiate between, and this probably doesn't even have anything to do with |
| 1:34.5 | the frontal lobe. |
| 1:35.3 | I think this was just, I didn't have the wisdom, I didn't have the knowledge, I didn't |
| 1:39.1 | have the understanding. |
| 1:40.3 | I did not know the difference between someone liking you, a man, A man liking you for what you can do for him versus a man actually liking you for you. |
| 1:51.3 | You the person. |
| 1:52.2 | You with your cute fun personality. |
| 1:54.3 | You with your little quirks. |
| 1:56.2 | You with what makes you you. |
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