Ep #106: Self-Sacrifice
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 25 February 2021
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
Listen in this week to discover what keeps us in a cycle of self-sacrifice and the remedies to help you stop putting yourself last. Doing the work of believing you are worthy of everything you want and need is not easy, but I promise it is so worth it, and I’m sharing how you can start figuring it out for yourself.
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| 0:00.0 | This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. |
| 0:13.3 | I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency |
| 0:18.4 | so you can live from your beautiful heart. |
| 0:20.4 | Welcome, my love. Let's get started. |
| 0:26.7 | Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Today, I want to dive right in to talk about a habit that I see all day |
| 0:39.2 | long in my clients in my six-month program anchored overcoming co-dependency. |
| 0:45.1 | So what I've come to understand is that many of us learned growing up that the best or only way to get love was to sacrifice ourselves. |
| 0:56.0 | To put our needs last, to put ourselves last, |
| 1:01.0 | which is a foundational codopendant and people-pleasing habit. |
| 1:05.0 | I know all about it because I did it for years. |
| 1:09.0 | It made me feel so good about myself in this fascinating way, and because I was so often in that put-upon-marter place, that place of being the fixer, of making everything so great for everyone else, I could use that suffering as a buffer against feeling my own real feelings, |
| 1:28.5 | because I was busy being the martyr instead of looking inward, instead of looking to see what I was really thinking, feeling, and needed to process through my body. |
| 1:40.0 | See how that sneaky brain thing happens? It's like, wow, brain, you are so amazing. |
| 1:48.0 | Look what you did to protect me. In its way, it is so beautiful. |
| 1:55.4 | All those hoops my brain jumped through |
| 1:57.7 | to try to keep me from doing something |
| 1:59.6 | it would kill me or make me suffer which was feeling my feelings. |
| 2:05.0 | I mean it didn't work in any sustainable kind of way and now that I know how to feel my feelings, |
| 2:11.0 | to process them somatically, which means through my body, now that I have this |
| 2:16.2 | whole toolbox of somatic ways to interact with my feelings, to process them, and I've changed my thoughts around having feelings, |
| 2:27.0 | life is so much better. I no longer need to be in that martyr role. I no longer need to self-sacrifice to feel good about me. |
| 2:35.0 | But wow, did my mind and body try to protect me from my deep fear of being wrong or not measuring up or having big feelings I didn't know how to process |
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