This is Annie Grace and you're listening to this naked mind podcast where without

judgment, pain, or rules, we explore the role of alcohol in our lives and culture.

Hi friends, it's Annie Grace. So this naked mind, I am answering readers questions. And today's

question comes from Tanya. Tanya says, hi, I love your video answers. And I listened to one about

how to handle not drinking one out in social situations. Can I ask the same question about how to stop

drinking at home? My evenings as a single mom working are always long and alone at home. So what's

the best way to get out of my habit of drinking wine and smoking to relax and shut down, etc.

And I did actually ask Tanya if she read the book or not or she was familiar with it because it would

you know change kind of how I responded. So I'm going to respond because she hasn't read the book,

but it's a really good question Tanya. So I think that you know, I believe and my work in my book is

based around the premise that you actually have an internal conflict that's responsible for the

difficulty you have around both wanting to stop drinking, smoking, and wanting to drink smoke at

you don't want to do it and you want to do it both at once. Cognitive dissonance kind of at its

core. And most people, you know, are pretty aware that we have two kind of thought processes if

you will. So we have two ways of thinking are conscious way of thinking in our unconscious or

subconscious way of thinking. And so conscious thinking uses language and intentional thought.

And it's your conscious mind that's deciding that you'd probably be better off healthier, happier,

not drinking as much. Now, you're subconscious. It doesn't use language. So this is the part of your

mind that keeps your heart breathing, heart, heart breathing, heart beating, keeps you breathing,

etc. So this stuff happens in a part of your mind without even being aware of it. But what most

people may not realize is that it's actually your subconscious mind that is responsible for your

desires. So your desires come from a subconscious place based on kind of a lifetime of conditioning

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