Empowering Vs. Enabling Toxic Behavior
CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf
Dr. Caroline Leaf
4.6 • 3.2K Ratings
🗓️ 21 August 2023
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I discuss the difference between enabling and empowering someone. Simply put, enabling is doing something challenging for someone else, while empowering someone means helping and supporting them as they complete the challenging task. Think of those school projects you did as a child; enabling is your mom doing the whole project for you, while empowering is your mom helping you do your own school project.
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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
5:03 What is the difference between enabling and empowering?
9:40 What is empowerment, and how can you empower a loved one and help them on their healing journey?
10:00 Why compassion can lead to empowerment OR enablement, if we are not careful
10:53 Why emotions are complicated and can lead to “messy” relationships
11:33 How do you say “no”?
12:00 How to mind manage your relationships with the Neurocycle
13:30 How the Neurocycle can help you make wiser choices and recognize the difference between enabling and empowering
18:50 Why we need to listen to and learn from our emotions and feelings, even the uncomfortable ones!
33:39 Why you cannot fix other people’s problems for them
35:10 How to empower those you love
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I'm Dr. Caroline Leif and you're listening to my podcast, Cleaning Up the Mental |
| 0:10.1 | Mass. |
| 0:11.1 | A podcast we actually sample and scientifically test the tips and strategies to help you |
| 0:16.3 | clean up your mind and your life. |
| 0:18.3 | I tell you I need this, I'm sure you feel you need the same thing all the time, there's |
| 0:22.8 | constantly this mental mess that's going on in our minds and our lives and every time |
| 0:27.4 | during the day, there's an opportunity for us to clean up our mental mess. |
| 0:31.1 | But today's podcast, I'm going to talk about empowering versus enabling and the reason |
| 0:36.7 | I'm doing this is because maybe like you, like me, you've been in situations where you've |
| 0:41.7 | had so much compassion for someone and someone's just so dear to you and they're going through |
| 0:46.4 | a really tough time and basically you help them a lot and then suddenly there's this shift |
| 0:51.9 | between are you enabling them or are you empowering them? |
| 0:56.5 | So has your help or your support shifted from an empowerment where they are, you're helping |
| 1:02.2 | them to learn to self-regulate and so on, has it then shifted over to the negative of enabling? |
| 1:07.1 | So I want to talk about that today and just give you some tips and a neuropsychal to help |
| 1:11.6 | you with that. |
| 1:12.6 | I've had a lot of questions from people asking me about this and to do a podcast on this |
| 1:16.9 | and I know for myself I've had to apply this a lot of times. |
| 1:20.3 | But before we begin, if you enjoy listening to my podcast and want to know how you can support |
| 1:25.1 | me, then please subscribe to this podcast where you listen to podcasts and keep hearing |
| 1:29.8 | episodes with friends and family and on social media. |
| 1:36.6 | Back to today's episode, where we're going to talk about the difference between enabling |
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