Ella & The Critical Financial Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 22 September 2025

⏱️ 77 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon interviews Ella about her struggle to escape a critical financial abuser. The episode centers on how, after an initial period of love bombing, Ella lost her sense of stability as her husband's financial control, accusations, and attacks on her parenting left her constantly on edge. Plus, Ella discusses post-separation abuse and how the children were used as pawns to control her. It’s a story of silent treatments, physical abuse, judgements, control, accusations, emotional neglect, manipulation, gaslighting, name calling, conforming, entitlement, being right, talking down, financial control, support, stability, recognizing abuse, the normalization of chaos, acceptance, double standards, losing yourself, guilt, shame, divorce, custody agreements, threats, using kids as pawns, boundaries, parenting plans, and post-separation abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	There are some things you should always check, like the hygiene rating on your local takeaway,
0:06.2	the setting on your razor, and whether the party actually is fancy dress.
0:11.1	The other thing you should check is your Experian credit report, especially if you're looking to borrow money.
0:17.2	It lets you understand what lenders see, so you can increase your chances of getting the best deals.
0:22.8	It's dead easy to check it and completely free.
0:26.6	See it in seconds. Download the Experian app today.
0:30.1	There are some things you should always check, like the hygiene rating on your local takeaway,
0:36.2	the setting on your razor, and whether the party actually
0:39.3	is fancy dress. The other thing you should check is your Experian credit report, especially if you're
0:45.7	looking to borrow money. It lets you understand what lenders see so you can increase your chances
0:50.9	of getting the best deals. It's dead easy to check it and completely free.
0:56.7	See it in seconds. Download the Experian app today.
1:01.8	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Ella,
1:07.9	and Ella was married to a critical financial abuser.
1:12.4	It's a story of intergenerational trauma, silent treatments, shaming, entitlement, guilt, and post-separation
1:21.4	abuse.
1:22.6	Abuse. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.
1:45.5	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Ella.
1:50.1	How are you?
1:51.6	I'm good. How are you?
1:53.4	I'm doing well.
1:54.9	Thank you for asking, and thank you for being here.
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