Rerelease: Kate & The Destabilizing Narcissistic Abuser | Domestic Violence

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Society & Culture, Relationships, True Crime, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 26 September 2025

⏱️ 84 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Kate shares her story of dating a destabilizing narcissistic abuser. Kate met her abuser at a musical jam, and they hit it off instantly. The relationship progressed quickly, with Kate finding herself at her abuser's home five days a week. From there, Kate's abuser hijacked her time, manipulating her into self-isolation, and once that was accomplished, he began to destabilize her in any way he could. It's a story of time control, minimization, denial, blame, guilt, animal abuse, child abuse, child sexual abuse, people pleasing, intimidation, support, destabilization, addiction, rage, boundaries, and trauma binds. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses Child Abuse, Child Sexual Abuse, and Animal Abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠click here⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Kate,
0:05.8	and Kate was in a controlling relationship with a destabilizing abuse of narcissist.
0:11.0	It's a story of people-pleasing, trauma bonds, boundaries, minimization, rage, intimidation, and blame.
0:41.6	Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.
0:46.6	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today we have Kate.
0:47.5	How are you?
0:49.0	I'm pretty good.
0:52.7	Well, thank you, Kate, for being here.
1:11.2	And if you want to be a guest like Kate is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page. There, you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill our guest form and press to submit button and please do send it in the format that we asked for. And today there is a content
1:17.2	warning for this episode as we do discuss childhood sexual abuse, childhood sexual assault,
1:23.8	as well in the episode, we also do discuss animal abuse and for the animal abuse part you
1:31.5	will have this warning that happens right before it so that is the content warning for this
1:37.8	episode and today you're going to hear kate's story and i've known kate for a very long time. Kate is a part of our
1:46.7	support group and I've seen Kate from the beginning of when she came into the group and have
1:53.5	watched her throughout her time of figuring everything out and you know different cycles of abuse that are that are going on,
2:02.7	the restarts of cycles. So today you're going to hear her story and it's about trauma bonds
2:08.5	and, you know, how she was involved with this person who was a really big time thief
2:14.8	and how that is part of an isolation process. And, you know, you're going to hear
2:19.5	about not respecting boundaries. There's rage, intimidation. You know, you're going to hear
2:23.8	about block doorways, you know, blame shifting, putting blame on you, guilt triangulation. And I just
2:30.6	really want to thank Kate for being here. It was a long process to get here, not just from being part of our support group, but, you know, just the process of doing this story, figuring how to tell your story. So just a really big thank you, Kate, for being here. And now I'm going to get out of my way and your way. Kate, the floor is now yours.
2:53.2	Okay.
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