Rerelease: Bay & The Abusive Serial Cheater | Domestic Violence & Narcissist Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Society & Culture, Relationships, True Crime, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 19 September 2025

⏱️ 82 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Bay talks about her abusive relationship with a serial cheater. At the beginning of Bay's 27-year relationship, her husband said and did everything right. However, once they married, subtle signs of abuse slowly appeared. And like the frog in a boiling pot of water, Bay was being cooked alive, and she didn't even know it. It's a story of serial infidelity, lies, victim playing, abuse cycles, codependency, love bombing, smear campaigns, triangulation, in-laws, self discovery, gaslighting, blame shifting, crazy making, hoovering, love bombing, financial abuse, sexual coercion, suicidal ideation, threats, ghosting, guilt, fixing, future faking, dissociation, rage, temper tantrums, and much more. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses sexual coercion, suicidal ideation, suicide threats, and very strong language revolving around gun use and self harm. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Bay,
0:06.7	and Bay was in a 27-year abuse of marriage with a serial cheater.
0:11.5	It's a story of lies, victim playing, abuse cycles, codependency, smear campaigns, and self-discovery.
0:51.8	Music dependency, smear campaigns, and self-discovery. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick and with me today, we have Bay. How are you?
0:58.3	I'm doing great. How are you? I am doing well and thank you so much for being here with us today. And if you want to be a guest like Bay is today, please do go to our website
1:04.4	at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form. Click on that
1:09.2	button. It takes you to our guest form page. There you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email at
1:14.9	Narcissistapocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button.
1:20.6	And please do read all of the instructions. And today you're going to hear Bay's story story and we have a content warning on this episode
1:30.5	as we do discuss sexual coercion, suicidal ideation, suicide threats and we have very strong
1:37.3	language that revolves around a gun use and self-harm so a big content on that. And now I'm going to get out of my way
1:47.5	and your way. Bay, the floor is now yours. Just a little background about me. I was raised in a
1:57.9	very loving but very strict Catholic family. Kind of felt like I lived in a bubble.
2:05.6	Didn't have a lot of outside influences. My parents are wonderful people, but my mom is
2:11.9	extremely controlling, very judgmental. I think that, you know, affected me later on in life.
2:20.6	I became quite the perfectionist when I was younger.
2:24.2	And I did struggle with low self-esteem when I was younger.
2:28.8	I was extremely shy, scared of new things.
2:34.0	But overall, good childhood.
2:38.0	I did have early relationships before I met my ex-husband, just your normal high school
2:44.4	college boyfriends, nothing out of the ordinary.
2:48.7	I did have one relationship between 19 and 20. And I didn't really know it at the time. I just thought he was a party guy, but he was an alcoholic. And he was violent. And he got violent one time with me and that was the last and that was done.
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