E173 - Birthday Q&A: What I’m Unlearning About Spirituality and Who I’m Becoming
Know Thyself
André Duqum
4.8 • 658 Ratings
🗓️ 26 November 2025
⏱️ 70 minutes
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Summary
In this solo Q&A episode, I’m answering the questions so many of you have asked me over the past few days—about ego, identity, relationships, breakups, shadow work, discipline, grounding, and what the spiritual path actually looks like in real life.
I share honestly about the subtle ego patterns I still face, how I navigate heartbreak with grace, what it means to “perform” spirituality versus actually live it, and the practices that keep me connected when I fall off center. I also speak about dating, celibacy, intimacy, and how I think about love at this stage of my life.
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00:25 How do you feel about people using spirituality as an identity?
04:34 What is a subtle form of ego that you still catch yourself falling into?
06:22 Relationships ending
08:30 I would like to hear about your struggles
10:19 How do you stay & grow in a relationship when your partner doesn’t meet you in that growth?
13:50 What are your top spiritual books?
14:39 What’s the simplistic way you ground yourself when you feel an imbalance?
15:50 Who is André underneath all the labels?
17:35 Do you ever fall off your practices with meditation or music?
19:26 Are you single?
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23:47 What do you use to know yourself deeply?
25:27 What makes you most optimistic about the future of humanity?
27:38 Which meditations do you practice?
28:37 How did you believe so much in yourself to create something at this scale?
30:31 What’s your vision for KT for the coming year?
32:57 When did you start playing piano?
33:40 What practices keep spiritual insight grounded and accountable?
34:36 What illusion do you see most are still caught in without realizing it?
37:55 What was your earliest experience that awakened you to God within?
40:35 How do you know it’s your calling when it comes?
44:25 Do you think the more one knows themselves, the harder it is to fall in love?
48:03 Do you believe in free will?
51:26 How are you approaching dating and relationships?
52:54 What is the most overlooked doorway in consciousness?
53:54 What’s the deepest question you can ever imagine asking yourself?
55:21 What you feel is most important for calling in sacred union, your person?
57:06 What are some of the biggest patterns you’ve unraveled in yourself?
59:22 How were you raised spiritually/religiously?
1:00:55 What kind of diet do you follow & why?
1:02:04 What was the book that launched you into seeking?
1:03:20 What’s the deepest truth you’ve met this year?
1:03:58 Do you as André think that God is consciousness?
1:05:49 Do you still go through episodes of depression?
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| 0:00.0 | What's up, everyone? |
| 0:02.4 | It's my birthday. |
| 0:03.4 | I thought I would do a little solo episode answering some questions that you guys submitted. |
| 0:08.2 | And yeah, I feel like I haven't done enough of these one-on-one solo Q&A episodes |
| 0:13.7 | where I just kind of go through a bunch of different topics. |
| 0:16.4 | And so that's what I wanted to do just to reflect a bit on this last year. |
| 0:20.4 | And yeah, stay connected to you guys. |
| 0:22.3 | Let's start running through these. |
| 0:25.2 | All right. |
| 0:25.8 | Beth Sheba asks, how do you feel about people using spirituality as an identity instead of embodiment? |
| 0:34.2 | Do you have friends that use spirituality as an identity? |
| 0:36.9 | Do you tell them or just let them be? |
| 0:39.3 | Yeah. |
| 0:40.3 | I have become increasingly aware of both where that exists within myself |
| 0:46.3 | and as an extension of where that shows up in other people, |
| 0:50.3 | how it gets rewarded, and how the spiritual ego, if you will, is just another form |
| 0:57.4 | of ego. One might say it could be perceived as the most special form of ego. It is the most holy. |
| 1:04.5 | It is the one that is most alluring and attractive. Out of all the games one could play, |
| 1:09.8 | spirituality could be seen as the one that is the greatest |
| 1:15.0 | of games to be best at. |
| 1:16.8 | And so I would say the more interesting question for me personally is where can I examine |
| 1:21.4 | myself still performing in any arena of life instead of showing up with presence where do I still want to be |
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