Dr. Becky: How to Stay Patient When You’re Triggered

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media

Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Relationships

5 • 5.8K Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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This one’s for the parents—or anyone raising little humans. I sit down with Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist and bestselling author of Good Inside, to unpack what’s really behind kids’ “bad behavior.” We talk about the mindset shift every parent needs, the three words that can calm any meltdown, and how to hold firm boundaries without losing connection. If you’ve ever thought, “Why won’t my kid just listen?” — this conversation will change the way you see those moments forever. If you want to check out Good Inside, the platform Dr. Becky built, you can head to goodinside.com and use the code JEFFERSON15 for 15% off your first membership. That’s JEFFERSON15, https://www.goodinside.com/ — offer expires December 31st, 2025. Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Masa Chips. Get 25% off at https://www.masachips.com/pages/jefferson Momentous. Visit https://www.livemomentous.com/ and use code JEFFERSON for 35% off your first order. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Right, that's it. Come on. Lights out. You've got a test tomorrow. Just two minutes. I'm about to reach the next level. It's going off now. Yeah, whatever. Let's see. Where's the app? Oh, here it is. What? How? Oh, no. You're out. Better look next time. Mom! It's game over for late nights on school nights. EE Wi-Fi controls help you get them off the Wi-Fi and into bed.
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0:30.3	This episode is for the parents, or really anybody, who's responsible for little ones.
0:35.8	I brought you the one, the only, Dr. Becky.
0:39.3	You know her as Dr. Becky Kennedy. She's a clinical psychologist, best-selling author of the book
0:45.0	Good Inside and founder of the parenting platform Good Inside, which I can promise you, my wife,
0:51.0	and we both are members of the app she is the millennial parenting whisper
0:56.3	dr becky thank you so much for coming on i have actually truly been very much looking forward to
1:03.2	that i know we both are guests often on people's podcasts and some easy thing to say but yeah i feel
1:07.8	like obviously we've been friends for a while and i'm i'm so excited to do this. Yeah, me too. You and I have known each other probably, what, over a year at least now? Has it been? Yeah, probably too, I'd say. Time flies when you're old, you know? Like us? Yeah, like us. Yeah, it's, I feel like it's, zoon by, it really has been to support you through every, all the changes that you have. You've certainly been there for me with all the things that we have going on. Be able to talk to you finally, um, face to face, even virtually is a true pleasure. So thank you very much for coming on the podcast. And I'm excited for all the things I'm about to ask you. I have a lot. So one of the things
1:45.0	that you have in, I think it's in your book, because I know I have it underline, is that when you
1:51.5	realize that misbehavior in kids is a skill and not a character issue.
2:01.6	Mm-hmm.
2:02.6	Things begin to change.
2:05.6	I know I'm paraphrasing here.
2:06.6	Yeah.
2:07.6	And I, that to me, now you know, for anybody listening,
2:11.6	I have two kids, ages seven and five.
2:13.6	How old are years, Becky?
2:15.6	13, 10, and 7.
2:18.5	Yeah, okay.
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