Go To The Dollar Tree
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 16 November 2022
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
Iyanla takes a look at the other side of the parent/child relationship, with two callers whose mothers still treat them like children. The first caller feels like he had to become the emotional support for his mother after his father died, which created an unhealthy relationship. Then, a second caller wants to have some relationship with their mother, but can’t seem to set boundaries like an adult. Iyanla guides both callers toward standing up and presenting themselves as children no longer.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent time in a relationship with a married man. |
| 0:09.0 | I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving. |
| 0:17.0 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. I did a show about some of the nuances of parenting an adult child and how the parent-child relationship shifts and |
| 0:46.1 | change in heels and grows and what we parents can get out of it and what the |
| 0:51.8 | children may need. Well, as mothers, we make our sons our |
| 0:56.6 | emotional husbands and we expect them to fulfill us in ways that it's not their job to do. So very often as mothers we make our sons |
| 1:07.8 | are emotional prisoners and we manipulate them into being and doing what we need in order to feel fulfilled. |
| 1:19.0 | If you need to forgive yourself, just do it and be open and willing to have your relationship with your |
| 1:26.0 | adult son healed and transformed. We need to talk about it today. |
| 1:33.0 | Thank you for your patience and welcome to the R spot. |
| 1:37.0 | How can I serve assist support you today? |
| 1:40.0 | Oh well, thank you for having me on. I was calling in because I am at my wit's end with the relationship |
| 1:50.4 | dynamic with my mother. It has been struggling for a while but it has intensified |
| 1:54.9 | over the last seven years since the passing of my father. Tell me what is the |
| 1:59.9 | crux of the issue with your mom? What does that look like, what's happening, what's going on? |
| 2:06.4 | I don't have the respect of my mother as an adult, as a man. She is, for me, it still comes off and feels like she still has some raising to do, she still has some |
| 2:19.0 | monitoring and checking and I guess giving instruction slash correction or under correction |
| 2:26.8 | under the guise of instruction or suggestions. She is not accepting |
| 2:32.3 | or supportive of my sexuality. |
| 2:36.0 | I've told her that I'm bisexual. |
| 2:38.1 | He's been unable to disconnect that from any other issues. |
| 2:41.5 | So for her, the crux of the issue is my sexuality. |
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