In my experience, one of the greatest challenges in going through a breakup is not actually the

breakup conversation itself, although that conversation sucks and is incredibly painful, at least

during that conversation, you're still with your partner. I mean, you're breaking up, but technically

you're with them. I mean, if you're breaking up in person, I guess sometimes people break up over

the phone. But even then, at least you're talking to them. You're still in contact with your

partner, even when you're breaking up with them. I think one of the greatest challenges during a

breakup is actually the weeks and the months that follow that are filled with these

fits of unbearable heartbreak and yearning for your ex where all you want to do is just text

them and reconnect all you want to do in the world is just say I miss you.

Say, can we talk?

All you want to do is just feel a little bit of connection between the two of you again.

Because in the weeks and the months that follow, the reality really starts to set in.

Because you're living the reality. You're experiencing your

new reality where you're not in daily contact with this person that you've been in daily

contact with for months, years, decades. And it's so incredibly painful. And there are these

moments of like, I don't even know what the word is for

it. I can't even describe it. These moments of absolute chaos in your brain where you feel like

your skin is like itchy. Like you just like you're just, you're like itching. All you want to do is like text your ex.

And it's so unbearable and it's so uncomfortable and it's so overwhelming that it almost seems like this impossible feat to not do it.

Like how am I going to not do it? It's all I want to do right now. And yet texting your ex is probably not a good idea.

That's not to say that there's never a time to reach out to your ex.

There is.

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