Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

I want to start with this quote happiness is the absence of striving for

happiness or I have one for you.

Most people are not happy because they're busy trying to be happy.

So here's the thing, if you don't strive for happy what do you strive for right? I mean

If you're not trying to be happy in this world then what should you try to be? Well, here are a few words that come to mind because I spent most of my life trying to be happy and by trying to be happy I was not happy. It's almost a

mirage you know it's almost something that we're chasing and by chasing that

thing we're not getting there.

If that makes sense.

I'm trying to think of where else in life that happens.

And of course my brain instantly goes to sexual, but it's almost like, yeah, it's like if you try to give someone an orgasm, then you may not.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, the chances of you giving someone an orgasm is exponentially higher if that isn't your intention,

but your intention is more about connection expression or exploration and I think when your goal is something

like that, then the orgasm is the byproduct, right?

And so I think instead of chasing happy, whatever happy looks like for you.

There are other things that you can try to build,

and I say build and not chase.

I don't like the word chase.

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