All right, team, today we are going to be talking about women with daddy issues,

aka the father wound and understanding them and learning how to have better relationships

with a woman that has been hurt by a father.

So if a woman has never had a relationship with her

father or she had a pretty terrible one with him for whatever reason, you're not necessarily

dating a woman with a healthy image of men or masculinity, aka a healthy image of you. You're dating

a woman with a wounded pattern with regards to how she relates

to men. And if she hasn't done the work to see that pattern, she can say that she wants love

and connection and intimacy with you while constantly sabotaging it. She can crave a good man,

a.k.a. you while pushing you away and rejecting you.

She can say that she wants peace and connection and ease while continually creating

endless amounts of chaos.

And this can all happen not because she's evil or she hates men or she's undeniably broken.

It's happening because her nervous system

and her neurology learn to respond to men through the lens or the filter of betrayal, pain,

abuse, neglect, and abandonment. And this is what some of us have come to call daddy issues. And it gets

thrown around like a kind of punchline, you know, a way to describe a woman who's difficult, clingy,

she's complicated, she's hard to love. It's used to explain away the behavior of a woman who seems

to need too much, who trusts too little, who blows up a relationship that's actually good.

And here's a problem with that framing. I kind of take issues with it because I think it's lazy.

I think it's reductive. Just like when I hear women say, oh, he's got mommy issues. I think it's

just, that's more shaming and blaming than anything else. And the truth

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