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You deserve a relationship that has both security and chemistry.

Don't settle.

Wait until you do not have to choose between the two.

You see, chemistry has gone kind of like a bad rep lately.

You know, like don't trust the butterflies, Chemistry is bad. And here's the thing.

If you want a romantic relationship with someone, there has to be some sort of physical connection.

There has to be chemistry. And chemistry is not just physical. There's be chemistry.

And chemistry is not just physical.

There's intellectual chemistry.

There's psychological chemistry.

There's emotional chemistry. But you don't have to choose between the insanely intense chemical relationship and then just the boring safe relationship.

You see, you don't want either one.

You don't want the relationship that has so much fire in it that it's unstable.

And you don't want a relationship that has so much earth and stone and stability that you don't feel alive.

We all deserve both.

But there's a lot of nuance here that needs to be explored. Number one,

chemistry can be incredibly unreliable. The moment you meet someone and you are attracted to them,

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