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Have you ever given someone a second chance who you should not have given a second chance to? Have you ever given someone a second chance who you should not have given a second chance to?

Have you ever gone back to the person who has already proven to you that they're not trustworthy?

Have you ever just gone back to the person who hurt you and keep thinking, well, maybe this time around it'll be different or you kind of justify it away?

Do you have a pattern of being in a relationship with someone who you know isn't treating you well, but you just can't seem

to stop the cycle. It almost feels like an addiction. I want to take today as an opportunity to

really break down the psychology behind why you might be going back to the person who you know, all your friends

have told you, maybe your therapist is told you, maybe your family has told you is not

right for you. And so ultimately, the goal is so that with this insight into yourself, that you then can start to break the cycle.

And I will also offer some guidance on how to break the cycle. But I do think that once you

understand the deeper psychology behind why you keep going back or why you keep

giving this person another chance or why you feel like you can't let go of this person

who's not wrong for you, all of the above, then, yeah, I think this episode is going to really

help. I want to offer you a perspective that I feel pretty confident that you haven't heard before because it's not something that's talked about on social media.

We hear a lot about the cycles of unhealthy relationships and its impact on the nervous system, like being sort of

like addicted to the adrenaline and to the high and to the roller coaster. You may have even

heard theories about we, we tend to go for the person who's familiar to us, even if that

familiarity is unhealthy.

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