I'm Oprah Winfrey. Welcome to Super Soul Conversations, the podcast. I believe that one of

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You know, for years on the Oprah show, I was really taking notes mentally, emotionally,

spiritually from all of our guests. And I had come to know probably after the first four,

five years of doing the show that there was a common thread or common denominator in the

human experience that got pointed up to me when I was doing a show with Harville Hendricks

who had written a book called Getting the Love You Want. And it really was about mirroring,

back to your partner, what they were saying to you, and understanding that in all relationships,

people were looking for validation. So when I did Harville Hendricks in the early 90s,

late 80s, I came to understand, oh, gee, that's what everybody's really looking for. Not

just couples, but everybody's looking to be validated. And if you were to ask me in the

early 90s, what is the big lesson you've learned from the show? I would have said that

the common denominator in the human experience is that everybody just wants to be appreciated

or validated. That got clarified in such a way that the hairs on my head rose when

I heard Tony Morrison, who was on the show for The Blueest Eye, one of my favorite books

of all time. I chosen her for a book club selection yet again. And she said these words.

It's interesting to see when a kid walks in the room, your child or anybody else's child,

does your face light up? Or, and that's what they're looking for. When my children used

to walk in the room, when they were little, I looked at them to see if they had buckled

their trousers, if their hair was combed, or if their socks were up. And so you think

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