Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.

I am Brandon Chadwick, and this is a follow-up to my episode with Alanis.

And for those of you who have not listened to Alanis' episode yet,

Alanis shared a story that began in childhood,

and it carried into two very different abusive relationships.

She grew up with a father who was emotionally unavailable, volatile, unpredictable, and really

quick to anger.

And the emotional climate of this home just shifted around his moods.

Everyone was always walking on eggshells.

Everyone was bracing for the next change in tone,

the next outburst, the next moment where this person who was connected to them at some

points would just completely disappear. And later on, Alanis found herself into abusive relationships

that looked different on the surface.

But the first relationship was openly cruel.

There was humiliation going on, emotional instability, verbal abuse, physical violence, betrayal,

and just a constant sense of being left off balance.

And then the second relationship, it was a lot of mixed signals, a lot of attention

and then distance, you know, closeness, and then there was withdrawal, and just a lot of

this push and pull that was going on, causing everything to be confusing, causing

Alanis to have to try to read into everything that was going on.

And it was just a really familiar terrain that was going on between both of these relationships

and what was going on from her childhood, that there was just this instability that was going on. And it was something that

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