On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Alanis,

and Alanis is chaotic upbringing normalized instability in her future relationships.

It's a story of repetition, being seen, confusion, and learning to trust your gut. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have

Alanis. How are you? I am great. Thank you. Well, thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Alanis is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Click on the guest form button, fill out the form, fill it out, and press the submit button. Also, we have a support group at our website. We have Zoom meetings every

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And there is a content warning for today as we do discuss

physical abuse in this episode. And today we are going to hear Alanis's story. And it's not going to be

done in the full traditional sense. It involves how Alanis felt in childhood and how she found that

familiarity in two relationships as she got older.

And growing up, Alanis lived with emotional instability that took a long time to fully make

sense of, you know, what was going on. Her father was unavailable, unpredictable,

and really quick to anger. And that really shaped what felt familiar to her, you know, in the long run and when

she started dating.

So in adulthood, that familiarity really followed her into two abusive relationships.

And many survivors or victims don't consciously walk into these situations, noticing

the same patterns. It just feels

familiar and the abuse hasn't really shown up yet. And for Alanus, this is what's happened.

It was tough for her to recognize. And in her first relationship, the first one was more openly

cruel. The second was harder to see while she was really inside it. It was confusing for

her. And things were really slippery and easy to explain away. But both these relationships

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