Hi, my name is John Kim, and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. Although this is not to my dad, this is more the speech that I'm going to say at his services tonight I just thought

titling it dear dad it just felt appropriate as in I just see him looking down and I guess it's like a message to him but not directly

a message to him if that makes sense okay so if you don't know my dad passed a few days ago and his

services tonight and I'm supposed to say something and of course I you know I'm not a memorizer if that's a word

so I'm going to just kind of wing it and use this episode slash podcast slash you as a an audience so I can practice I hope you

don't feel used.

Okay, so this is what I'm going to say tonight.

First, I'm going to walk up there with my new glasses and the thing about my new glasses is they either look like old

grandpa glasses like reading glasses like what Santa Claus would wear or or if you have the confidence they I they

like them they can actually kind of look cool a little bit on the history side

but anyway I'm going to say, no, these glasses did not belong to my dad. They are mine.

I picked out these classes. And hopefully I'll get a few laughs and if I don't, it's going to feel very weird.

And then this is what I'm going to say.

So my dad wasn't the kind of guy who took us camping or taught us how to, by us I mean my brother and I had a swing a bat or throw a ball.

My dad actually worked a lot and he was rarely home, but he did teach me things and these are some of the things that he taught me

one work ethic well more my brother than me

and by the way, I don't, this isn't something that I've written down word for word,

they're just bullet points.

That's not what I'm going to say to them. I'm talking to you. Okay, work ethic.

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