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I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to share my love

with other people.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio.

Welcome, everyone. Welcome everybody. I am Yonla and this is the R spot. The place we come to talk about

relationships to examine relationships challenges issues blessings

The place we come to learn the principles the practices the behaviors that will make our relationships more lasting, more fulfilling.

We look at our relationship with everything with ourselves, with money, with other people.

And today we're looking at the do's and don'ts of relationships.

The do's and don'ts of dating.

We have, what do you do and

you do and oh my god no they didn't but I seem to have the impression that

people are meeting they're having sex, and they don't even know each other.

Is that part of dating? And if you're going out with someone and they're moving a little

faster than you or slower than you would like how do you have those conversations?

We're talking about dating does every have those every date have to end with you know a

talking about dating does every date have to lead to marriage does every date have to

end with you know a good time and a roll in the? I just I don't know anymore. And I don't think I'm alone.

Okay? Because what are the questions that you should ask on the first date, the second date, the third date?

What are the things that you need to know so that you're not three months in or six months in to find out that the person you're with has a house full

of kids or an ex-wife or lives with their mother in the basement?

I mean, what do you do? How do you ask what is the

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