This is an opportunity. Don't look at this as a problem. It's an opportunity calling.

This is an opportunity to find it because it's already exploded. This is a win-win situation.

You either communicate what you want and the relationship moves forward in a real progressive, powerfully intimate way where you get to connect to what you need.

You now get to change the rules because it obviously didn't work before.

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Again, we can't make our partner do anything. We just can't. We can't make anybody

in the world do anything. That's just a reality we all have to deal with.

The next best thing we get to do is we do get to motivate, we get to engage, we get to, again,

interact with people around us in ways that make them want to do things or not want to do things.

The first example I'm going to give is just from children. Children and

later teens don't have a high motivation to change typically because they have nothing to lose.

There's no skin in the game, right? If they throw a tantrum about wanting chocolate and they don't get

the chocolate, if there's no consequence on the other side, then worst case in error, they got

to try to get some chocolate. They didn't get it, right? If they really want to watch TV for 17 hours straight

and you tell them they're cut off and they throw a tantrum, they're trying to get what they want back.

If there's no consequence, no pay, no no negative implication of that tantrum that they throw, then there's no cost to it.

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