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So tonight we're talking about

being with other people's emotions,

helping other people's emotions, helping other people process

emotions, affects, helping people process difficult experiences, how to do it in a both beneficial way for them and a way that doesn't cause us too much entanglement or taking on the emotions that someone else is struggling with.

We'll talk about all that.

We are biologically hardwired with what we could call innate responses.

They're wired into us, known as affix.

And affix are different than emotions.

Affex are pretty universal and that all people have levels of arousal

from relaxed all the way up to intense, freaked out, or the nervous system

collapses in a free state.

And we also have feelings which rain from being very relaxed and comfortable,

pleasant, all the way to real discomfort,

emotional pain.

So these states of arousal and feelings are the raw constituents that

eventually comprise emotions.

But emotions are more than just affects,

which are feelings and states of arousal.

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