Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Creating a safe space and active listening, this is crucial. This is not an option, it's

foundation, it's soil. It's the only way that the relationship is going to grow and thrive and it's only way

you're going to build trust with your partners.

So if you don't have a safe space or don't have the ability to create one, it's really hard to connect and build trust.

So the way I'm going to go into this is through person-centered theory which is a theoretic orientation I learned in

therapy school and I think it's the best way to explain actually the simplest way

to explain how to create a safe space and then we'll get into

active listening so Carl Rogers created this theory and I'm just gonna really

simplify it because the way that self-betterment works for me is if it's you know

digestible and simple and I'm assuming for you two it's probably better than me

just you know being a talking head and rambling about theories all day.

So there's three things that you need to create a safe space.

So I'm going to present it uh... is like what what a therapist would do for

client and we could talk about what that looks like for you

to create a safe space for your partner so

three things you need uh One is unconditional positive regard and what that

means is that the therapist must be empathetic and non-judgmental to convey

their feelings of understanding, trust and confidence that encourages

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