Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Your definition of love, why is it important to explore your definition of love?

Here's the thing, we trace blueprints. So we have these ideas and these definitions that stem from our story and if reality doesn't match those

definitions there's instant anxiety right and there's no difference when it comes to love So it's really important to be aware of your

definition and also how you form them. So let's talk about this. How did you form

your definition of love?

Okay, I also, I'm going to share my story because that's just kind of what I do.

I think our stories are powerful and I always bring it back to me using my

story as an example so for me or well for anyone it starts with our parents right so in my case I had

Parents who showed zero affection my mom and dad are very traditional Korean old school and the definition I got was mom and dad works all the time.

They don't touch each other. they don't show any kind of

emotional affection my dad would uh any time my dad showed any kind of

affection it was to get a laugh so he would be joking around or you know trying to try to like kiss her

it never came from an authentic genuine place it came from a showy performance

place in front of the kids to make us laugh and of course anytime my dad tried to make an

advance on my mom she would always push him away and that was the

blueprint that I absorbed.

And you know, when we're growing up, whether it's words, behavior,

or energy as children, we absorb, right?

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