Connection vs Safety

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.4 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 8 June 2026

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, we talk about how couples can use simple “scales” to better understand each other’s energy, desire, and capacity. Instead of assuming what your partner means when they seem tired, anxious, disconnected, or resistant, naming where you are can turn confusion into context. These tools help couples move out of all-or-nothing thinking and into clearer, more generous communication. Main talking points: Energy Check-Ins Naming Capacity Getting Context Importance Scales Avoiding Assumptions Collaborative Language Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! ⁠ Rhythm - Get 15% off + Free shipping the world’s easiest at home blood testing ⁠⁠Simple Practice⁠⁠ - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? ⁠⁠Spark My Relationship Course:⁠⁠ Get $100 off our online course. Visit⁠⁠ SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock⁠⁠ for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:23.0	Hello, hello. Welcome to Relationship Advice.
0:25.7	My name is Coulter Bloxum.
0:27.9	I'm joined with my best buddies, Kayla Bozovich and Lauren Moak Carey.
0:31.8	We are three licensed professional counselors.
0:33.8	We run a therapy community in Phoenix, Arizona, and we are real life licensed
0:40.5	best friends who share every secret with each other and know everything about each other's
0:45.6	lives.
0:47.7	Actually, we do have some boundaries in our friends.
0:53.5	Yeah, that's not real.
0:54.7	That's not what real best friendship is.
0:56.4	But we are close friends.
0:57.9	And this podcast is all about all things, relationships, how to better connect with others.
1:03.3	And we always start with connecting with ourselves.
1:07.7	We have a relationship academy online as well where we go further in depth on some
1:15.7	of these topics. We've been doing Q&As in there. And so if you got a question about your
1:19.7	relationship, how do I handle this? Like, what do I do? What do my partner and I do when we get
1:23.4	into this place? Please ask us because the odds are somebody else is having that question
1:28.1	as well. We say we don't have, you know, 50 different fights. We have the same fight, 50 different
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