So we exist as human beings in relation to other people. We are pack animals. We don't run,

clung trees, dig holes, or fight particularly well. We don't have massive teeth, at least none that I know of.

So the way we survive is by connecting into affiliate relationships that are based on trust.

And it's a very complicated process.

In fact, so human beings are the most, required the longest period of time of post-natal caretaking before we can go out into the world on our own and take care of ourselves.

And the human brain requires about 26 years

to fully wire.

The first three years were just wiring up the various sections,

which is why we don't really have very long lasting memories from our first three years.

In fact, the hippocampus, which creates lasting memories, isn't even wired up until about three.

But the amygdala, the fear, memory, sections of the brain is working from the very moment we're born.

So that's the one thing you've always got wired up.

So it takes a lot of priming and preparation to get a human being to get to a place where they can interact with other people in a useful way.

And we need to do that because that's how we process our emotions.

Human beings regulate, we regulate our emotions, which means we diffuse them largely through interacting with each other,

not just through language talking about it,

but when we're in proximity with each other and we can report our emotional states,

somebody else can see our body language or tone of voice, spatial expressions,

or gestures and they can create what's called a safe container

where we can voice emotions and then be heard and in that being heard being heard being

seen our emotions are normalized and we have given a safe place where we can allow them to arise without feeling like we're going to basically come apart.

So we need people desperately.

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