Hi, everybody. Thanks for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber,

and today I'm going to be talking about why confidence is the key to dating success.

So you probably already have some kind of idea of why that might be true.

Because, yeah, of course, like the most confident person in the room is the most outgoing.

And they walk like this and they talk like this and they have all these things going on that make them very attractive and you have kind of this image of a confident person and in my experience

and I feel like this may be your experience as well a lot of people who look very confident on

the exterior and have many objective reasons to be confident, don't actually

love, value, and respect themselves. And that's my definition of core confidence, is loving,

valuing, and respecting yourself. And that is truly the key to dating success for two reasons.

The first reason is once you love value and respect yourself, it is almost impossible to tolerate

anything less from anybody outside of you.

The way that you treat yourself internally is your standard for what you expect from other people.

Have you ever had a friend who was so beautiful and so funny and so talented and so amazing in

every single way and you appreciate her so much and

really just think the world of her. And yet she always dates assholes, like guys who treat her

like shit, guys who don't appreciate any of those things about her, guys who forget about her,

don't text her back, aren't really interested in her,

constantly. I have had friends like that. From the outside, it's so clear to see that the only reason

they don't have the love that they want is because they don't love value and respect themselves

enough to say no to guys like that. And sometimes women who

don't have that core confidence can't even accept the love from an external source. It like does

compute. And this was definitely my case. Like as my confidence grew and as I started to value myself more,

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