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The worst question you can ever ask is how do I have a better marriage?

Because it takes two. The best question is God, how can I be a better husband? How can I be a better wife? What is within my control?

That's Dr. Greg Smalley and he joins us today on focus on the family along with his co-author Bob Paul and I'm John Fuller along with your host focus president Jim Daly.

John, I've said it many times, but there is one thing that we are core about and that's marriage.

I mean, that's one of our core things. We want marriages to thrive. We want them to thrive in Christ, ideally.

And we do place a high emphasis on the institution of marriage because we believe in it. We believe it's God's design for the family.

And I know hearing from the listeners and the viewers, they agree. I mean, that's why they're tuning in. They want to get some help.

They want to have a better marriage. Jean and I want to do that. We're learning every day, especially it's so fun when I come home and I say,

Hey, Jean, I've got a great idea. Let's spend 10 minutes and evening together and she'll say, who did you record with today?

I thought I was wise, but I really get so much wisdom as you do, John, through listening to the guests that we have the privilege of interviewing.

And that's going to be the same today. I'm excited to interview two of our colleagues.

Yeah, Greg Smalley and Bob Paul, join us. Greg is the vice president of Marriage here at Focus on the Family and has been here a number of times.

Bob heads up our Hope Restored Marriage Intensives and we'll talk a little bit more about those as we go.

Together, they have a book called Nine Lies that will destroy your marriage and the truths that will save it and set it free.

It's published by Focus on the Family. And of course, we have that here. The link is in your episode notes.

Greg and Bob, welcome to Focus. Hey, thank you. It's so good to be with you guys.

You've been here a few times, Greg. Bob, this is your first time. First time on the bridegroom. Yeah, it's so good to have you.

You're normally out in Missouri at Branson and helping couples every day, right? Absolutely.

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