Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or pinnacle with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

What to do if you've been cheated on? This is a big topic and I want to say I don't have a simple color by numbers answer no one does every situation is different

because every relationship is different everyone's history is different

what activates you is different right so my goal is to give you things to think about. My goal

is to give you hopefully some direction, maybe something I say will get you to have some insight or revelation about your situation.

My goal is not to tell you what to do.

Okay.

First thing I want to say is that I like so many believe that infidelity can feel like the worst, meaning, you know, the most betrayal.

And I get it, I mean, you feel like you were just cut at the knees.

I mean, the promise has been broken, right?

And you start thinking about your entire relationship

and if anything was real, ability to do this I don't even know this person

has the ability to do this I don't even know this person right like we start going there and I want to say

that and this may be kind of hard to hear but

I don't believe that if someone cheats and I know there's different types of cheating, it means that what you guys have or had is wasted or gone or you know or that

was meaningless so let me give an. I mean I've had many clients

obviously who have struggled with either being cheated on or they have cheated.

And what's interesting is the clients that I worked with where they did the cheating,

it's always most of the time it actually has nothing to do with their partner had more to do with them

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