Inner speech starts out as originally the words our caretakers say to us that we internalize

the words like, don't eat the cookies, don't run in the hallway, you know, don't hit your brother, don't go out of, you know, don't run out of the street, street whatever all those voices become as the child moves

away from the orbit of the parent they start regulating themselves by in essence

recreating the parent as a figure that's present in their thoughts.

So all of this can be very fine and good if you grew up with an endlessly sympathetic, compassionate, loving, kind,

tolerance, emotionally available parent.

But suppose you're like the rest of humanity and that you didn't only get those

messages. Not only will the mind the child internalize the negative messages they hear, but in fact the human mind is

gravitated or set or inclined to interject the most emotionally difficult messages we receive.

Why is that?

Well, there's lots of research, the great psychologist and noble prize winning, Daniel Kahnman,

showed that there's something called the peak end rule, which is people tend to remember the most psychologically alarming states from an experience,

as well as the very last states of an experience we tend to remember.

And other psychologists have positive the brain has what's known as negativity bias.

Well, we tend to listen and internalize and remember negative voices, negative experiences,

negative ideas more than we remember instill in the brain positive messages,

positive thoughts, empowering ideas.

This is because your brain, like mine, is set up to survive,

and the brain uses or deploys two-thirds of the emotional alarm system

known as the amygdala.

Two-thirds of it is devoted to negative experiences focusing on all the bad stuff we hear and

remembering it so it's very common that people will pinpoint the most negative language that

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