Can You Cure a Narcissist?
Trauma & Narcissism Redefined
Caroline Strawson
4.8 • 701 Ratings
🗓️ 12 January 2021
⏱️ 19 minutes
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Summary
This week we talk about the possibility of curing a narcissist, and what we can do to make our situation better. Is it possible at all to get beyond their protector parts, and heal that wounded inner child that is responsible for their narcissistic behaviour?
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
- What the real chances are of curing a narcissist
- How a covert narcissist turns things around and gaslights us
- The lack of ownership and of sense of responsibility in narcissists
- The difficulty of helping someone who thinks they don’t need help
- How to be compassionate towards the narcissist and still keep them accountable for their behaviour
As narcissists are a product of a childhood trauma, it is okay to be compassionate and empathetic. We need to accept that it is impossible to help someone who doesn't acknowledge they need help.
Resources:
- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you |
| 0:09.5 | awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive. |
| 0:16.4 | I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you. |
| 0:21.3 | And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation. |
| 0:30.3 | So this is going to be a really, maybe even controversial one because every time I talk about this, I get lots of messages from |
| 0:39.6 | people saying, you can't say that and everything else. And I think this will be a really, |
| 0:43.3 | really good opportunity to explain maybe the misinterpretation of what people say and also |
| 0:49.8 | what I feel about it as well, because at the end of the day, I respect other people's opinion, |
| 0:54.7 | and obviously I hope other people can respect my opinion. It doesn't mean we have to agree |
| 0:59.5 | on everything. And that is, can narcissist be cured? Just let that land with you for a moment. |
| 1:06.7 | You know, maybe you've been victimized by a narcissist. And sure, like many of us who've been in that |
| 1:11.6 | situation, we go through that feeling of, can I do something about that? What can I do? And we often |
| 1:17.9 | have, you know, I use internal family systems in what I do. You know, we have those people |
| 1:22.3 | pleasing parts that come up, you know, maybe if I behave like this, my abuser, so we go into |
| 1:27.0 | that foreign response, maybe my abuser, so we go into that foreign response, |
| 1:27.9 | maybe my abuser will behave in a different way and minimize their behavior and everything |
| 1:33.3 | will be okay. It must mean I'll be good enough then. So I want to talk to you a little bit |
| 1:37.5 | about narcissism through a trauma-informed lens of whether we can cure somebody who is a narcissist. And the first thing I want to |
| 1:47.1 | say is really about what a narcissist is. Now, yes, we have this diagnosis that is in the DSM, |
| 1:53.5 | the Diagnostical and Statistical Manual, which is the mental disorder book that healthcare |
| 1:58.5 | professionals will use to diagnose lots and lots of disorders in there as well, |
| 2:02.5 | including narcissistic personality disorder, where they list nine traits. And if you have |
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