Welcome to the narcissistic abuse recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you

awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.

I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are now and I believe you.

And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.

In this episode, I want to talk to you about judgment.

Now, I'll probably talk to you a bit about judgment in this episode, maybe something

different from what you've heard before, because I always come to the work that I do very much

from internal family systems, which is a parts therapy perspective. So when I look at people,

I really see them as different parts. And again, just to give you a bit of

background how internal family system works, we're really talking about three main aspects to our

system. So we have ourselves, which is who we all are. So that's like the essence of ourselves.

And that is somebody who is calm, connected, courageous, compassionate, creative, living with clarity.

We have these eight Cs that we say really are the essence of the self.

So in the work I do, you'll hear me talk a lot about the self and that's who you are.

And again, how much of your life are you living as your true self, your authentic self, your

core self, the essence of who you are? Now, what happens in our childhood usually and beyond

is that wounds can be formed. So younger parts of ourselves can become wounded. And we call these

in internal family systems exiles. And these wounded younger parts

carry beliefs and burdens that can be very detrimental to us as adults. So beliefs are things

like I'm not good enough. I'm unworthy. I am helpless. I am stupid. So beliefs that we think

are true, down to interpretation about

ourselves. Burdens are things, the sentences really, that go in alignment with those beliefs.

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