Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

I'm sitting down quietly because everything that I have in this garage is really loud. The chairs, the fucking parrots, my slurping coffee.

Okay, on today's episode,

I'm gonna be answering your questions.

Real quick, if you're a parent, when a child says,

I want to show you something and they grab your hand

and pull you in the opposite direction of wherever you're going, it

means they don't want to do the thing that you want them to do.

So just a tip. Like go to do. So just a tip like go to school. My daughter said I want to show you

something as I was dropping her off and start taking me like tried to like

take me across the street randomly. Anyway, okay, I have a ton of questions.

Let's get to them. Here we do.

Why does a healthy relationship feel so boring?

Well, because many of us, we grew up being used to chaos, drama, and so our bodies are used to that, right? And so then when we find something healthy, it feels flat, it feels unfamiliar. We quickly label it as boring and then we don't give the relationship a shot and this is why I say we have to swim past the breakers and in this case the breakers. And in this case, the breakers is boredom. You know, it's your

body saying I'm used to the highs of an emotional roller coaster.

I don't feel it here.

This shit just feels like spinning teacups on board.

I want out.

And you have to be aware of that and then you have to sit with it, work through

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