#brunchtalk: What Should You Do When Your Partner Prioritizes Their Family Over You?

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 12 November 2023

⏱️ 16 minutes

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From spending time with their children or even their parents, what do you do when you feel like you come second to your partner’s family? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to balance your relationship with other relationships in your life, ways to get to the bottom of the actual feelings you may be experiencing, and why it’s important to broach this topic in a way that doesn’t compete for each other’s time. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode is sponsored by: Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateable Modern Fertility: Get $20 off your fertility test when you go to modernfertility.com/dateable. Bearaby: Get your hand-nit weighted blankets @mybearaby or bearaby.com Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Meeting People IRL Kickstarter - CLOSES August 31st and get $10 OFF now through then! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi I'm Ewie Schu and I'm Julie Kraftchik.
0:02.8	We're active daters turn dating sociologist.
0:05.4	Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.
0:09.0	Welcome to the dateable podcast.
0:11.0	Hey! podcast. with brunch talk where we answer your dire dating questions that you may have and
0:25.8	we'll answer them to the best of our ability. You're in the right place though
0:30.2	because we got a good one today. One that I think hits in different ways for people.
0:35.1	So excited about this one.
0:36.7	And what is this question, Julie, so excited about? The question is, what should you do
0:41.6	when your partner prioritizes their family over you?
0:46.0	More context, I've been struggling with my partner because he always chooses his son over me instead of finding some middle ground. It's been
0:55.2	causing a huge rift in our relationship. What do I do? I've been trying to
1:00.3	develop a thick skin and not let his son bother me, but I'm running out of other ideas.
1:06.2	Yes, okay. The language that you're using is he's choosing his son over you like he is intentionally shooing you away to spend time
1:17.4	with a son I'm not sure if that is the case but that is how you're interpreting what is happening. My first
1:25.0	inclination is to say can you verify that with your partner? Is he intentionally
1:31.0	taking time away from you to give more time to his son.
1:35.4	That's first and foremost to clarify.
1:38.0	And the second thing I would think about doing is establishing some sort of expectations because this sounds like you went into this without any
1:46.4	expectations and he's going on with his life how he thinks it should go and you are putting some sort of expectations on him that he's not
1:55.2	meeting so if he's not aware of your expectations then how is he supposed to meet them?
2:00.5	I mean I'm gonna hear by a perspective I have not been in this situation or have a
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