#brunchtalk: Dating Isn't As Personal As We Make It

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 31 August 2025

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

It's hard not to take dating personally. But the reality is that most people WON'T be matches – and if they don't text back, don't want to go on another date, or don't want to enter a serious committed relationship, most times it has nothing to do with you. So join us in this #brunchtalk to discuss why can shift our mindset to approach dating with a lighter heart, the spectrum of taking accountability for personal growth versus viewing everything as a reflection of yourself, and how to use "it's not you, it's them" as a way to lead to more authentic connections.

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0:56.1	Hi, I'm U.E.S.U. And I'm Julie Kraftchik. We're active daters turned dating insiders.
1:01.6	Here to dive into everything, modern dating, and relationships. Welcome to Datable.
1:14.5	Hello, everyone.
1:17.0	Welcome to another episode of brunch talk.
1:18.4	Welcome back, everyone.
1:21.2	We're excited to be back for another week.
1:22.2	How are you all doing?
1:23.1	How's summer?
1:25.7	How's life?
1:44.4	How's life in general? I always love what people are like, how's life? And you're like, how do I even answer that? Where do I start? Where do I even begin? It's been such a, like, such a weird week of, I've been trying to get chat GBT to help me with my life.
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