Coming up on marriage today with Jimmy and Karen. The Holy Spirit is the Spirit of

truth and if you're speaking the truth he will be your partner to change your

spouse. If it's not true it doesn't need to be enforced.

To see those things in your marriage

to recognize that when you do see fear in your spouse,

or if you do see maybe the anger, go a little deeper.

Get past yourself enough to think you know what's triggering this in him

you know is it is it is she angry because her feelings are hurt or are you

dominant because you're fearing losing control? We're talking about how to be in an emotionally healthy marriage, an emotionally

healthy relationship and in healthy relationships you don't control each other.

Now when Karen and I got married I

controlled her. I mean I was a very controlling dominating husband. We were on the

brink of divorce. It ruined our marriage and it always does. Control is simply not of God. But in

Genesis chapter 3 you know Adam and he's sin and God created them perfect and put them

in a garden of Eden. The word Eden means pleasure and delight. God created

marriage to bless us. God created marriage to be a place of pleasure and

delight. And as long as Adam and Eve were submitted to God, they lived in a beautiful paradise.

That's what their marriage was.

But the devil tempted them and they rebelled.

And when they rebelled, God cursed them.

And God said to Adam, it's not going to be easy on you anymore.

Adam, you lived in a paradise and you didn't have to work. But now it's going to be by the sweat of

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