Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. So about 35 minutes ago I was laying face down getting a Thai massage. No it wasn't that kind of massage.

It was a deep tissue massage and if you do a lot of cross fit or workouts it's important to get massages once in a while

Which I rarely do so my body has just been wrecked so I got myself to the massage place and I had a

moment where I just had how grateful I am for all the things you know just thinking how

grateful I am for all the things you know and it's weird sometimes when you practice gratitude and

it's it's like sex where if you force it it's not good you know it has to come naturally and a lot of times I find

that when we check our list of gratitude because we know that gratitude changes our state

and we're trying to be more grateful and practice gratitude so we have

this list I feel like it could be feel for sometimes right but when you kind of

allow yourself and maybe because I was so relaxed or because I wasn't feeling stressed out or maybe it was the

tiger bomb I don't know what it was but I just have like this wave of

genuine gratitude I think that that's what gratitude really

affects you and I could like literally feel it in my body and even if it's for a second, having peace, having the belief that the glasses have full, having hope, having true optimism. And I think part of that gratitude was me appreciating just my

story you know I think a lot of us think about our stories and we focus on the

bad and what's not working we focus on you know the shit that that has happened and whatever you feed grows so if that is your focus

it's going to be very hard to be grateful right so I was focusing on how far I've come, you know, I was focusing on me coming out the other side. I was focusing on

having some freedom in my life finally you know I was focusing on just my own

journey emotional journey my my journey as as a as a writer, as a therapist, as all of this. And it just accumulated in this

like swell that turned into a wave of gratitude. So shortly after that I was

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